One of the biggest things that kept me from fully pursuing my dreams for many years was a lack of confidence.
It’s something we all face at some time in our lives. The difference between those who are able to achieve, and enjoy, true success and significance and those who struggle with mediocrity and dissatisfaction is what they chose to do about it.
Lack of confidence is not a permanent condition. You can increase yoru confidence levels dramatically with just a few simple steps.
However, to overcome it, you must be able to recognize it.
Below, you’ll find some common symptoms of low confidence levels. If something sounds familiar, it might not be a bad idea to look into help, such as this class that teaches you how to boost your confidence.
**Note: Be honest when looking at this list. Don’t be ashamed to acknowledge that you can identify with one or all of these symptoms. At one time, I could relate to all of them. The only way I was able to move forward was to acknowledge and address them.**
12 Warning Signs of a Lack of Confidence
1. You can find a needle in a haystack.
If something has a flaw, you’ll find it. Instead of focusing on the ten things going right, you’ll find the one thing that’s going wrong.
2. You take 10 minutes to choose a box a cereal in the grocery store.
Whether it’s something potentially life-changing as determining a career path or as benign as picking a restaurant for lunch, having more than one option tends to paralyze you.
3. The word “no” is not in your vocabulary.
You want others to see you as a nice, kind, and helpful person. In order to please others you say “yes” even when it inconveniences you greatly.
4. You’ve been wearing “this old thing” for years.
It’s difficult for you to accept a compliment or praise. Instead of saying “thank you” when complimented on a job well done, you’re more likely to say “it was nothing” or “anyone could have done it”.
5. You’re always saying “I’m sorry.”
You’re overly apologetic. Whenever anything happens, the first words out of your mouth are “I’m sorry”—even when you haven’t done anything wrong.
6. You spend half of your time at a networking event checking your messages and the other half in the bathroom.
In social situations, you isolate yourself and make excuses not to engage.
7. You think everyone on the road wants to cut you off.
It’s all about you. The driver who fails to signal before turning, the line at the grocery store, the snappy receptionist at the doctor’s office are all a part of a conspiracy to make your day miserable.
8. When the going gets tough, you give up.
You want instant gratification. If the results of your action don’t come quickly, you’re off to the next thing.
9. You are afraid to take risks.
To avoid making a mistake or failing at something, you aim low. You don’t stray too far outside of your comfort zone.
10. You haven’t done anything for yourself lately.
Constantly trying to please others, you rarely take time for yourself. Your well-being suffers as your make sure everyone else is taken care of.
11. You never have enough time to do the things that matter to you.
Things to do for work, your children, your spouse, at church, and everything else comes before your goals and dreams.
12. You don’t enjoy your successes.
In a constant pursuit of perfection, you discount your achievements. The moment you accomplish one goal, you’re off to the next one.
Do you recognize any of those symptoms? No worries.
The great news is that lack of confidence is not a permanent condition. There are simple ways you can boost your confidence levels.
The following are a few strategies I use to maintain high confidence.
Start Your Day With Positive Expectation
You get what you expect. If you expect to have a bad day you will. The reverse is also true. If you expect to have a good day, you will. This doesn’t mean that everything will be perfect. However, I have found that when I expect to have good things happen to me during the day, I’m able to put a positive spin on even the “bad” things. I approach the day’s challenges with more confidence becauseI’m anticipating a positive outcome.
End Your Day With Gratitude
One of the best ways I’ve found to ward off feelings of low confidence is to think of all the things for which I have to be grateful. Every evening, I ask myself “what’s the best thing that happened to me today?” The focus on gratitude allows me to not only recognize my strengths and abilities, but also the support of those around me.
Do Something You’ve Been Putting Off
I didn’t mention it before, but procrastination is also a telltale sign of lack of confidence. Take a look at your to-do list. Is there something that you’ve been putting off because you think it might take too long or it’s too hard to do? Tackle that item first thing in the morning. Or, better yet—do it now. Getting that item off of your list will do two things. First, it will free up much needed space on your list. And, second, it will give you a boost of momentum and the confidence to tackle other difficult tasks.
Empower yourself with knowledge
Empowering yourself, in general, is one of the best strategies for building confidence. You can do that in many ways, but one of the surest ways to empower yourself is through knowledge.
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