Over the past few years, I’ve met many professional Christian women who ask me the question, “how do I get more out of life?”   And, they’re not necessarily talking about more success.  These women are some of the most successful women you’ll ever meet (at least according to societal standards).  They have nice homes, great jobs and businesses, loving families, and are pillars in their communities. 

Yet, when they come to me, they don’t feel successful at all.

You may have felt this way in your own life.  I know I certainly have.  In fact, I can remember  being sworn in to practice law in Georgia in 2006, having people tell me how proud they were of me and what an awesome thing I’d just accomplish…all the while, I was feeling like a fraud.

I did not feel successful at all.  In fact, I couldn’t have felt more like a failure if I’d tried.

 “There’s got to be more to life than this,” was all I kept thinking.

I felt that I was meant to do something greater with my life.  But what? 

We Need Meaning In Our Lives

As professional Christian women we are created not only to live extraordinary lives filled with an abundance of success.  We were designed to crave significance as well.

And, we never feel truly complete unless we have both.

So, What’s Standing In The Way?

The answer might shock you.

The biggest barrier to having both success and significance is not talent, resources, or even character.  It’s all about your mindset.  More specifically, it’s about how you think about yourself.

It might surprise you to realize that many professional Christian women have confidence issues.   Don’t’ feel bad, it took me almost four years to realize it myself. (But once I did, oh my how things changed!)

Lack of Confidence in Disguise

Part of the challenge around recognizing this issue is that it is well disguised.  Many professional women manufacture real reasons why they cannot move forward to truly living lives of greater significance. Things to do with the kids, with work, with the house, with church, with volunteering,  and on and on. 

Let’s Get Real

The reality is, the reason you’re over-scheduling yourself is because you don’t have the confidence in your true goals, hopes, and dreams. So, in your resistance to reaching those desires, due to lack of confidence you come up with real things in your life to stop you from getting what you want.

Build Your Confidence

Building your confidence in yourself and your true desires in life is not difficult. All it takes is a shift in your mindset

This simple little shift of mindset is so basic and easy to implement, but most people won’t, because it implies a great level of responsibility. However, it will change everything for you when you really get it.

If you truly want to live a life of success and significance,I invite you to join me for B.I.R.T.H. Your Dreams – a power-packed personal transformation challenge. Give me 21 days and I’ll personally help you to stop struggling with unfulfilled potential and start accomplishing your most authentic personal and professional goals. Claim your access to the B.I.R.T.H. Your Dreams Challenge by visiting:http://BeneciaPonder.com/challenge.

Brought to you by Benecia Ponder, dedicated to helping you live with an abundance of passion, purpose, power, and prosperity.

Dear Friend,

This school year my 16 year old daughter made a very important decision.  As a high school junior she decided to leave the small, private Christian school she’s attended for the past two years and she transferred to a very large, very public high school on the other side of town.

Going from being a popular cheerleader with lots of friends to being a newcomer at a school where most of the students have known each other from middle school, wasn’t an easy thing to do. In addition to making new social connections, she also has had to learn her way around a much larger campus, adapt to a brand new system of school administration, and (perhaps the biggest change) adjust to an environment where most of her peers don’t share her values and beliefs. 

So, why did she make the move?

Simply put, her comfort zone had become uncomfortable.

Amber is a dancer.  It’s her passion and the school she attended does not have a dance education program.

The school she transferred to, however,  is one of the top rated dance magnet programs in the state of Georgia.

My daughter was willing to step outside of her comfort zone to strengthen her talents and fully pursue her passion.  

Form this experience, she has learned two very important lessons:

1. Your comfort zone is not safe.
   Many people believe that your comfort zone is the safest place you can be.  On the contrary, it is the most dangerous place to reside.  When you settle in your comfort zone, you bear the heavy burden of living a mediocre life settling for “good enough”.  And, you run the risk of never fully achieving your highest potential and purpose. 
2. There are amazing opportunities outside of your comfort zone.
   In her very first dance class at her new school, the dance director saw my daughter dance and nominated her to receive a scholarship to train at the Atlanta Ballet.  Over the past few months, Amber has received more dance instruction and performance time than she has over the past two years combined.  She trains everyday and has performed in front of thousands of people and her dance team was in the filming of a new movie.  None of that would have happened if she would have stayed at her old school.  

My Challenge To You:
What comfort zone is getting uncomfortable for you?  I  challenge you to stretch yourself by taking the following actions:

Get real about where you are.  Do a reality check and acknowledge that you’ve settled in a comfort zone.

Get clear about where you want to go.  See, in vivid detail, the exact things you want to have, be, and do with your life.

Make a move.  You don’t have to see all of the steps to take the first one.  Just get started.

Get some help.  Maybe you’re not sure how to fully step out of your comfort zone yet.  But you can learn.

I invite you to join me for the B.I.R.T.H. Your Dreams breakthrough challenge.Give me 21 days and I’ll personally help you to stop struggling with unfulfilled potential and start accomplishing your biggest personal and professional goals. Claim your access to the B.I.R.T.H. Your Dreams Challenge by visiting: http://BeneciaPonder.com/challenge. 

Brought to you by Benecia Ponder, dedicated to helping you live with an abundance of passion, purpose, power, and prosperity.