Associations bring about assimilation. Birds of a feather flock together. I’m sure you’ve heard these sayings at least once in your life. But, have you ever considered what they mean in relation to the levels of health, wealth, and happiness you have in your life?
Jim Rohn, America’s foremost business philosopher, was famous for saying, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Think about the five people you spend the most time with…do you all enjoy the same things? Do you all have the same level of happiness? Even if you are in different careers, do you all have just about the same level of income? Do you all read the same types of books or watch the same television shows? Are your relationships with your significant others similar? Chances are, you answered “yes” to most of those questions.
The reason – your thoughts, beliefs, habits, actions, and character are shaped most by the people you spend the most time with. Like Les Brown says, “If you hang around with 9 broke people, chances are you’ll be number 10″
Now ask yourself, “Is that okay?” Are you satisfied with having the same kind of income, success, relationships, and spiritual life your friends and colleagues have? If so, GREAT!
However, if your relationships are not providing the support and challenge you need to achieve the levels of success you desire in your life, then it may be time for you to make some changes. Here are three choices you can make in your current relationships:
Let Go – This is very hard to do and it is not a decision that should be taken lightly. However, there are some relationships that are too toxic to continue. You must let go of these relationships before they poison your entire life.
Place Limitations – There are some people you can’t let go of. However, you don’t have to allow them to be major influences in your life anymore. Begin to limit the time you spend with them. For instance, if you’ve previously spent hours on the phone gossiping with a certain friend and realize that this is taking up time you could be using to take action toward your goals, limit the number of times you talk to that person each week. You can also limit the things you discuss. Instead of discussing gossip, discuss your plans for the future, good things that have happened recently, or a good book you’re reading.
Upgrade – Begin to enhance and expand your relationships with positive and successful people. Make it a priority to spend the majority of your time with people who are excelling in various areas of life (health, wealth, relationships, spiritual growth, etc.).
Focus on expanding your positive relationships. Spend at least 2 hours this week in the company of people who challenge you to stretch and operate in excellence. This could mean attending a personal development seminar, going to a new Bible study class, taking your mentor to lunch, or attending the monthly meeting of your professional association.